The Power of the Voice: How Educators can Support Infants with Child-Directed Speech

Anisha Grossett • May 30, 2025

As educators working with infants, one of the most important tools in our communication tool box is our voices! Lalalalaaaaaa! Our voices are dynamic and powerful tools used for many things including singing, laughing, advocating, and so much more. One of these these amazing and scientifically proven ways to use our voices is child-directed speech, also known as parentese or as I like to call it - Educatorese ๐Ÿ˜‰! Sometimes mistaken for “baby talk”, child-directed speech plays a critical role in how infants and toddlers learn (and enjoy) language.

In this blog post, we will dive into the science of child directed speech, some practical ways to incorporate it effectively into childcare connections, and reflect on how you use your voice with babies!


Have you ever wondered why baby superstar icon Ms. Rachel talks the way she does? Why do babies love it? It’s because Ms. Rachel is using child-directed speech. By slowing down and stretching words with a heightened pitch, babies stay engaged and want to connect aka LEARN!


Child-directed speech is as easy as a-b-c 1-2-3


  • Sing Songy Exaggeration ๐ŸŽถ
  • HIGHER Pitch
  • Slooooooowed & Streeeeeeeetched
  • Pauses… between… words…


Often, we don’t even notice ourselves doing this around small children - it’s a natural human instinct to do!


Pause & Reflect: Have you ever noticed that you talk differently to small children? Maybe animals even? It is also common to speak to pets and gentle creatures like this to tap into their brains.


Research has shown that child-directed speech not only captures an infant’s attention but also helps them distinguish between different phonetic sounds, laying the groundwork for vocabulary development (Zero to Three, 2024). Child-directed speech is tapping directly into parts of the brain associated with auditory processing and speech production. ๐Ÿง 


Child-directed speech is sometimes mistaken for “baby talk” / goo goo ga ga; however the two have significant differences. Child-directed speech is talking to an infant as one normally would, but using your voice in a specific way. There is always a place for ga ga in babbling and mirroring but supporting children with this tool is efficient and useful.

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The cool thing about this tool is that it works across languages and has been used by cultures all around the world (because it’s human instinct) since the dawn of babies! Child-directed speech has many developed many nicknames like “parentese”, “motherese,” or my favourite “educatorese” because it is so culturally and scientifically relevant in our world and human history.


Did you know: Oddly, out of instinct, there was a period of time where child-directed speech was seen as a definite no no and not educational. It was believed that using flat, serious and adult tones and pacing would build a child into an adult talker. But eventually with developing evidence-based research and the return of instinctual following there has been a shift. Child-directed speech is now seen as the more preferable way to speak to children. Isn’t interesting how views shift and change over time? 


In early years settings, “educatorese” & child-directed speech pops up all the time! With intention or by-instinct-accident we use educatorese all throughout the day both indoors and outdoors (yes this even works outside!) - gaining children’s attention and building connection is a core of our work! Taking time to intentionally use this tool can help support new children, create calm, add life to everyday routines, and even build community.


Let’s jump into some action and try mixing intentional child-directed speech into big and little moments of the day!


Supporting New Children


  • Start Small: Use Educatorese to peak a new child’s attention and build a small starter connection - this could be as small as “Hi…there” (familiar ala Ms. Rachel)
  • FaceTime: Special, intentional, face to face time together builds bonds and connections. Try sitting up, on our bellies in tummy time, walking or crawling towards each other, or up in arms! - Remember to follow each child’s lead and cues to help to direct your speech to that specific child ๐Ÿฅ (not all children enjoy eye-contact so remember it isn’t always required to use your voice - look around as you talk if that works better - your voice is the tool here)


Create Calm


  • Child-directed co-regulation: Calm your exaggerated speech and keep it slow, stretched, and breathe deep between words to help calm a disregulated child. Infants (and all humans) need the support of a calm responsive connection to help them regulate again
  • Group Calm: Increase your volume slightly so the group can hear but continue the calm; try BIG deep breathes, soft almost singing, or hummmmmming in a directed way to help support the calm of a group. Infants have heightened empathy especially for other infants, so supporting the group or an individual infant back to base helps everyone feel cool and collected.


Everyday Routines


  • Diaper: Let the child know it’s their turn for a diaper routine! Utilize this 1-on-1 time to use child-directed speech - Label all the items in the routine “diaaaaaaper! We have a diaaaper,” direct speech to the “baby in the mirror” and help baby connect with their reflection, and take a moment right after the change when you return to program “Thaaaaaank yooou my friend! Great Diaaaaaper!” (Don’t forget to wash your hands ๐Ÿ˜‰)
  • Nature Speech: Remember child-directed speech works both indoors and OUTDOORS! So take this outside and utilize the natural sights and sounds of the outside classroom when using child-directed speech outside “see the biiirddd! Tweeeeeet tweeeet!” - Try using the calm, directed-speech at birds or squirrels … do they hear - do they look over?


โ€ผ๏ธAdvisor Sophie did not advise you to get bit! Be safe and always remember animals are animals so safety safety safety!! ๐Ÿฟ๏ธ 


  • Arrival & Sendoff: Start and finish the day with a bit of intentional directed speech ๐ŸŽค Use your voice to say goodbye and hello everyday! Familiarity and repetition are favourites of infants! So pause and repeat…repeat…repeat…one day baby might say bye bye back ๐Ÿ‘‹ 


Community Build


  • Parentese meet Educatorese: Use child-directed speech with parents in front of their babies! Start a conversation together, encourage their loved one to use their parentese voice, talk to family and baby at the same time and show off what great “friends” you and their guardian are! Babies begin to feel stranger anxiety around 7-9 months so they look to their caregiver for safety. Seeing them comfortable and talking in a happy connected way can help an infant feel more comfortable and connected to the conversation.
  • Family Culture & Language: This works for any language and is often seen around the world so ask families about language and culture to utilize in your directed speech (example family’s word for mom is Anaana so I could say “hellooo anaaaaaaanaaa”.[Anaana is mother in Inuktitut]) This can even apply to home and family culture - the words, nicknames, and silly words families use for specific things can build their own language! Remembering this is important to building language, if families call a bottle “baba” use the word family uses and build on that! “Huuuuungry? Baaaabaaa time! Let’s have a botttle” - this isn’t baby talk this is family culture and part of many family’s home lives!
  • Share Science: Share with your community about the science behind the voice and perhaps someone they are a fan of…Ms Rachel (or almost any children’s character, musician, or entertainer - listen close and you’ll hear it more often then you think ๐Ÿ”Ž) Try a bulletin board - a poster - post on digital platform - newsletter or social media post from centre!


As you look forward and step into action, take time to reflect and think deeply within yourself, your program, and your babies…

How do you feel about “baby talk” and child-directed speech now? Has anything changed? Will you try something new?

Thinking about past views and shifting knowledge, have views in that perspective shifted for you? How do you feel about children’s voices and the way they are heard, seen, and spoken too?


Knowing more about the science and instinct - where do you see yourself with child-directed speech? Is this new? Is this old news and you’re an award winning baby talker ๐Ÿ†


Do you have your own memories of positive child-directed speech being used with you or have used it yourself? Do you have ideas of where you would like to intentionally use it now? (Maybe even at home with family or pets?)

Internally, is this natural to you or is it something you need to put more practice into utilizing? Pausing during routines, calming children, and connecting with community, where could you use this?


Looking beyond at nature, have you noticed using this tool with your pet or a squirrel - maybe they look at you when you talk like this? Do you think you’d ever try this?


Thinking about family culture for yourself - do you have any words or language of your own? How do you feel about silly words or made up words for things like bottle or nap? Is there room to expand or shift? 


As we conclude I direct-speech to you, I send you trust in yourself and your voice - I know you’ll find what this looks like for you! Thinking about our next steps where will you go from here?


Remember: child-directed speech can start as small as “Hiiiiiiii… theeeeere!” 


Ps. Ps. Ps. Nervous? Worried to sound silly?


Try just one of our ideas! Tell your coworkers you’re trying something new and share this blog post, encourage a week of intentional child-directed speech and see how it goes!


(I believe Infants practice unconditional love meaning they don’t judge good intentions ๐Ÿฅน)


Sending you loads of love and luck Advisor Sophie ๐Ÿ˜˜


Check out these resources babies:

https://youtu.be/0IaNR8YGdow?si=E2tKdMhyp8TujBiy

https://www.zerotothree.org/resource/how-do-infants-translate-sounds-to-language/

You’re Not a Bad Educator — You’re Exhausted!

By Anisha Grossett • October 29, 2026
Somewhere along the way, many educators started believing that exhaustion was just “part of the job.” The skipped lunches. The emotional overload. The constant multitasking. The staying late. The taking work home mentally even when you’ve physically left the building. And when you start feeling disconnected, impatient, overwhelmed, or emotionally drained, you begin questioning yourself. “Maybe I’m not cut out for this anymore.” “Maybe I’m losing my passion.” “Maybe I’m just not a good educator.” But what if the problem isn’t that you’re failing? What if you’re simply exhausted? Exhaustion Changes Everything Exhaustion doesn’t just affect your body. It affects how you think, respond, lead, communicate, and show up. It can make you: less patient emotionally reactive disconnected from the work you once loved overwhelmed by small tasks forgetful irritable numb anxious constantly overstimulated And in a field like early childhood education — where your work requires emotional presence all day long — that exhaustion builds quietly. Because unlike many professions, educators are expected to continuously pour into others regardless of what they’re carrying personally. You’re expected to: regulate emotions support families manage behaviours document learning maintain ratios create enriching environments communicate professionally stay positive be nurturing and somehow still smile through it all Every single day. That’s not small work. That’s emotional labour. The Guilt Many Educators Carry One of the hardest parts about burnout in ECE is the guilt attached to it. Educators feel guilty for: needing breaks feeling frustrated wanting time off struggling mentally considering career changes setting boundaries not “doing enough” There’s this invisible pressure in the field that says: “If you really love children, you should always have the capacity to give more.” But love does not cancel out exhaustion. Passion does not replace rest. And caring deeply about children does not mean sacrificing yourself endlessly in the process. Burnout Doesn’t Always Look Dramatic Sometimes burnout looks like crying in your car. Sometimes it looks like emotional numbness. Sometimes it looks like dreading Monday morning. Sometimes it looks like being physically present but mentally checked out. Sometimes it looks like snapping over small things and then feeling ashamed afterward. Sometimes it looks like wondering why the work that once fulfilled you now only drains you. Burnout isn’t weakness. It’s often the result of prolonged stress without enough support, recovery, recognition, or balance. You Deserve Support Too Early childhood educators spend so much time caring for everyone else that many forget they are deserving of care too. You deserve: healthy workplace environments leadership that values you manageable expectations mental health support boundaries rest appreciation beyond “thank you” professional development that actually pours back into you opportunities to grow without burning out Most importantly? You deserve to be human. Not a superhero. Not a machine. Not someone expected to endlessly give without replenishment. Human. A Reminder for the Educator Reading This If you’ve been feeling disconnected lately… If your patience feels thinner… If your spark feels dimmer… If you’ve been questioning yourself… This is your reminder: You are not a bad educator. You are an educator carrying an enormous amount emotionally, mentally, and physically. And maybe what you need right now isn’t more guilt. Maybe you need support. Maybe you need rest. Maybe you need community. Maybe you need to hear that you matter too. Because you do. And the work you do matters deeply — but your wellbeing matters too.

The Power of Community in Early Childhood Education: Why ECE Appreciation Starts With Connection

By Anisha Grossett • September 25, 2026
Why ECE Appreciation Starts With Connection Every day, early childhood educators shape the future. Through comforting hugs, meaningful conversations, learning experiences, advocacy, creativity, and care, ECE professionals help children build confidence, belonging, identity, and lifelong foundations for learning. Yet behind the incredible work happening in classrooms, programs, and communities, many educators still experience something that often goes unspoken: isolation. That’s why community matters. As we celebrate Early Childhood Educators' Day and ECE Appreciation, we believe this is more than a moment to recognize educators for what they do — it’s also a time to reflect on how we support them while they do it. Because educators deserve community too. Community Changes Everything In early childhood education, community is powerful. It reminds educators they are not alone in their challenges, ideas, dreams, or experiences. It creates spaces where professionals can collaborate, grow, ask questions, feel seen, and be inspired by one another. Strong communities in ECE can: Reduce feelings of burnout and isolation Encourage innovation and leadership Create opportunities for mentorship and collaboration Support educator wellness and confidence Help professionals feel valued and understood Build stronger programs and stronger outcomes for children and families When educators feel connected, supported, and empowered, entire communities benefit. And the truth is — many educators are looking for more than professional development. They are looking for belonging. The Importance of Finding Your Community Not every community looks the same. For some educators, community is a team within their centre. For others, it’s a mentor, an online network, a professional membership, or a safe space where they can openly discuss the realities of the field. Finding your community means finding people who: Understand the work you do Celebrate your wins Support you through challenges Encourage your growth Inspire you to lead, create, and advocate Community reminds us that we don’t have to navigate this field alone. As educators, leaders, entrepreneurs, and advocates, we grow stronger when we grow together. What Does It Mean to Be a Community Member? Being part of a community is not just about joining a group — it’s about contributing to a culture of support, encouragement, and connection. Great community members: Show up authentically Share ideas and resources Encourage others Listen with empathy Celebrate fellow educators Stay open to learning Create welcoming spaces for others You don’t need a title to make an impact in your community. Sometimes leadership looks like: Checking in on another educator Sharing a helpful resource Encouraging someone who feels discouraged Starting meaningful conversations Creating spaces where others feel included Leadership in ECE begins with connection. Building the Future of Community in ECE At The Early Childhood Coach, we have always believed that educators deserve more than occasional inspiration — they deserve ongoing connection, collaboration, and support. That belief is exactly why we are building the ECC Community Hub. The ECC Community Hub is being designed as a space where early childhood professionals can: Connect with like-minded educators Access professional growth opportunities Join meaningful conversations Build relationships and collaborations Feel supported in both life and career Grow as educators, entrepreneurs, and leaders More than anything, we want this to feel like a true community built for the ECE field. A place where educators can feel empowered, inspired, connected, and celebrated. Reflective Questions for Educators Take a moment to reflect on your own journey within the ECE community: What does community mean to you as an educator? When have you felt the most supported in this field? What kind of community are you currently looking for? How do you currently contribute to the ECE community around you? What would change if you felt more connected professionally and personally? In what ways can you become a stronger community leader? How can you help create spaces where others feel welcomed and valued? What kind of impact do you want to have within the ECE field? You Belong Here ECE Appreciation is not only about recognizing the work educators do. It’s about reminding educators that they matter too. Your voice matters. Your experiences matter. Your leadership matters. And you deserve to be part of a community that pours back into you. As we continue building spaces for connection within the field, we invite you to grow with us. Learn more about the ECC Community Hub Explore the ECC Community Hub here !